We are moving this week!!
It’s starting to settle in and yes, I’m getting emotional.
Whenever I tell people that we are moving again, they kinda look at me like I’m a crazy person and they can’t believe we are doing this. I can’t say I blame them. If you know me, then you know this will be our 11th move in 13 years.
Let’s quickly recap our moves:
1- Scott’s mom’s basement for 1 year in IL (we married young (19) and were poor).
2- Champaign IL while Scott went to UofI for 3 years. We bought a condo together there. (We had Grace in Champaign and were pregnant with Michael before graduation.)
3- We lived with family for a summer in IL during Scott’s internship.
4- Scott’s Grandma’s condo in IL for 5 months while our house was being built. (We had Michael there.)
6- We lived in a rental in downtown Geneva between houses for 4 months.
7- Then we moved into our dream home downtown Geneva, IL and lived there for less than 2 years. (Some dream, ha!)
8- We lived in Florida for a summer while we were having our Indiana house built. (We lived in Scott’s Grandma’s other condo.) (Scott got a new job which required us to move out of IL!)
9- We rented an apartment in Zionsville, IN because we were building another house and the kids were starting school so we needed to come back from Florida.
10- We built another new dream home in Zionsville, IN and ended up only living here less than a year because Scott got a new opportunity at work which means moving again.
11- We bought a fixer upper and will live there until the plans change again! (All in God’s time!)
People are amazed with our moves and how we handle it. First, I want you to know, it’s not easy for us at all. It fact, it can be a huge struggle at times. The actually move is a pain in the butt but then you need to register your vehicle and take your driving test again, fill out your address change on e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. (This can be a reason alone to never want to move, ha.) find new schools, new neighborhoods, new churches, new shops, new friends, new routines, and basically start over again and again and again. So, it’s not easy for sure.
But – there have also been some huge benefits too!
We get to meet new people for one thing. I was worried about the kids but they are getting outside their comfort zones and doing awesome. They are learning new communication skills and making new friends.
We are simplifying our life. After moving so many times, you really think about what you have and what you actually need. There is nothing worse than opening a moving box full of junk you don’t need, want, and you don’t even know why you own it.
You can spend more time as a family. It takes time to settle in, so in the meantime, you are spending more time as a family.
When I get comments from people getting shocked about our move, I keep thinking about how every time we move, we are forced to get outside our comfort zones. I think it’s good to get uncomfortable once in a while.
In fact, I find myself exploring more and more ways to get outside my comfort zone because I know that’s what I need to do.
I need to do things that scare and push me.
I’m not saying that you need to move to grow personally but I’m saying don’t be afraid of change. Change is not always a bad thing.
When you look at the positives, even the smallest changes can propel us into new thinking and growth.
I keep reminding myself that we are all getting outside out comfort zone and just go with it! We will end up stronger for it.
Also, I want to say that lots and lots of prayers have been said before each move and we feel like this is God’s plan for us.
So let’s talk about getting outside of your comfort zone – what does that actually mean? Why is that important? How does make you stronger?
This topic is so near and dear to my heart and I feel like I could talk about this for days! The reason this topic is so close to me is because it has literally changed my life…and continues to do so.
I wasn’t always this open and confident about moving and changes. I remember crying and stressing over moving many times when first starting moving our family. It wasn’t easy – but hey – life isn’t always easy.
I didn’t really become open to change until after I attended a business conference about 5 years ago and the speaker said if we started getting outside our comfort zones, that our life would look completely different after only one year. In my head, I didn’t believe that was true but since she was the expert, I decided to put her theory to test. I forced myself to become more open-minded and found ways to get uncomfortable. It obviously wasn’t easy, especially because I was a shy, stay at home mom at the time and I didn’t do anything scary…like I was boring and very comfortable with my plain and simple life. (I don’t even know the old me anymore!)
I also made a decision to think bigger and to try to accomplish more in life.
About one year after I made my conscious decision to get uncomfortable, I realized that my life did change and I felt like a whole new person.
I started to become more aware of this and continued my personal journey of trying new things, be open-minded, and get uncomfortable. I’m sure you heard the saying – you need to get comfortable with getting uncomfortable. Well, that is kind of my motto for myself and will continue to be.
Since I started trying new things, I have flown all over the country multiple times by myself (big step for me), flown with a baby by myself, went zip lining in Hawaii (I was terrified), moved
multiple times, drove the kids across the country without Scott, ran a half-marathon, have been in a video for a marketing campaign, spoke on stage many times across the country including in front of thousands of people, spoke on national sales calls, lead team training calls, had multiple business meetings with millionaires and a billionaire, met Olympic athletes, started an online brand and social media platforms, and have earned hundreds of thousands of dollars, and much, much more. And I feel like I am just getting started. I feel like there is no end to what we can accomplish and learn to do!!
Also, did I mention, this move will be just the kids and me? We will have movers but Scott has been out-of-state for 3 weeks and has another 3 weeks to go. So basically, he will come back to a new home that will already be put together (by me) and the kids will have a new schedule with their new school. (He’s a lucky guy, ha!) Just call my superwoman, haha! Instead of complaining or feeling bad for myself (because let’s face it – it’s going to be a ton of hard work), I’m viewing this as another way I can be stronger and grow personally!
The best part is that I am encouraging and showing my kids to do the same. I don’t want them living in fear of change or being scared to try something new.
I want you to think about your own life.
Are you afraid of something?
Do you know there is more out there for you?
What’s stopping you from going out there and getting it?
What scares you?
Please stopping getting in you own way!!
When you face your fears and start trying new things, I promise you will thank yourself later!
So the next time you know you should do something but you feel like you can’t because your afraid, remind yourself that you can do it!
It’s like the quote from Einstein…
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Cheers to trying new things, going on new journeys, and making a difference!!
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